Divorce Support

Are you struggling to face the reality of your situation? Do you feel alone and unsure of how to manage things? I am here to provide you the support you need to get through this time.

 

INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING AND COACHING

Facing the reality that your marriage is over can be painful, overwhelming, and destabilizing.  It takes time to grieve the loss of a relationship and the life you had planned for.  There may be times you feel relieved and grounded and other times you feel sad and lost.   Part of this process will be about you rediscovering yourself and redefining your identity. Therapy will help you gain the emotional clarity, strength, and tools you need to facilitate this life transition. Improve your capacity to become more secure, confident and capable of healing and transformation.

Call me for a free 15 min consultation.

 

COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE

The collaborative divorce process was born out of a desire and intention to help families reduce, and potentially avoid, the financial and emotional upheaval often experienced by people getting divorced using process options like litigation and mediation. Unlike litigation, and mediation, the attorneys are invested in helping the clients come to mutually agreeable settlements because they sign a participation agreement, which binds them exclusively to the collaborative process.

Attorney’s have come to recognize that divorce is not only a legal and financial process but also an emotional one too. The Collaborative divorce process is a more comprehensive, multidisciplinary and supportive option available to guide your divorce in a way that is more respectful, caring, and considerate of these factors. It involves using two attorney’s (one for each spouse), a Neutral Facilitator (often a mental health professional) and a Neutral Financial Professional working as a team.

There are times where other professionals may be included in the process for their expert knowledge and skill set in addressing complex issues pertaining to a family’s needs. These can be child specialists, mental health therapists, parenting coordinators, mediators, forensic accountants etc. The ultimate goal of the collaboratively trained professional team is to support the spouses in achieving mutually acceptable resolutions.

The core elements of a Collaborative Divorce process include:

  • Negotiating a mutually acceptable resolution without having the courts decide issues.
  • Maintaining open communication and information sharing.
  • Creating shared solutions that acknowledge the highest priorities of all.

The benefits of this process are numerous including:

  • The interests of each client are the driving force and the focus in team meetings and the clients can make decisions based on what they believe is fair, despite what the law says.
  • No records are made public throughout the process except the final marital settlement agreement providing ultimate privacy for the spouses involved.
  • Enhanced efficiency of the process as a result of the neutral facilitator taking over many administrative and process functions allowing the other team professionals to focus on their specialty.
  • Enhanced potential for better co-parenting relationships once the divorce is final because of the communication and conflict resolution skills used in the process
  • Divorce process is not based on the timeline of the courthouse.

The Collaborative Divorce process was recently adopted into legislation as an approved and identified alternative dispute resolution option for spouses looking to dissolve their marriage.

If you are unsure how to navigate the divorce process and want to come in together or individually, I am here to help answer your questions about the the process options available to you and the differences I have observed.

 

COLLABORATIVE FACILITATOR

As a Neutral Facilitator with a background in mental health, I bring a specific set of skills to the collaborative process that helps to manage conflict, improve communication, and facilitate the identification of differing perspectives and interests to be known, understood, and included in the decision making process of the spouses.  Within the framework of family disagreements the interests of the children become the priority.  My role is to facilitate the communication of the team, facilitate the team meeting, help maintain the structure and process of the team meetings and support the clients in resolving conflict as they arise.

The benefits of having a neutral facilitator in the collaborative process include:

  • Facilitating communication in a way that creates an environment of safety which enables better decision making and a potential for the spouses to communicate more effectively after the process is over.
  • The ability to identify, and manage conflict when it arises.
  • Ensuring a balanced process that prevents attorneys or spouses from taking over and therefore maintaining a sense of mutual respect.
  • Enhancing the efficiency of the divorce process by:
    • Developing agendas for every meeting.
    • Helping the team to stay on time and on track within the team meetings and outside the meetings.
    • Taking over tasks of communication and coordination, which allows the professionals to focus their time and efforts on their speciality.


If you have questions about the collaborative process and want to know more about how this divorce process can help you navigate your divorce, call me!  I will be happy to explain this process further, and how I or other professionals can help you.

 

FAMILY MEDIATION & CO-MEDIATION

Are you facing a divorce and know there are things your both agree on and some things you don’t? Are you concerned about the potential financial hardship that hiring an attorney may cause? Do you need to create a plan for your children and how they will share time between you and your ex-spouse? Are there divorce matters that you need to discuss with your spouse but you cannot find effective ways to do it? I am here to help.

Financial and family law matters are not void of emotional challenges and consequences. As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, a Collaborative Facilitator, and Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, I bring a unique skill set to the mediation process. I am keenly focused on reading emotional cues and de-escalating conflict that can hinder communication and the resolution of client’s family matters. Because of my background and training I am able to facilitate better communication between clients in a group dynamic and am focused on assisting clients in finding mutually acceptable resolutions to their often conflicting interests. ​

As an additional option, I have joined forces with a few very experienced family attorneys who are certified family mediators in order to be able to offer co-mediation. This is a unique type of process that can enhance and improve your ability to address and resolve all family matters that need to be addressed. As a supportive team in co-mediation, and with our unique skill sets and knowledge, we can help you achieve a more comfortable and satisfying resolution to your divorce with sustainable results.

For some people having a mediator is sufficient to resolve their marital/family disputes, while for others the value of utilizing a multidisciplinary team as in Co-mediation or the Collaborative approach enhances the efficiency and durability of their divorce process and may be more appropriate. I am happy to offer or discuss these options with you.

 

CO-PARENTING COUNSELING

It is not easy to continue a relationship with your ex-spouse, however in the context of parenting it is necessary. Chances are your ability to communicate and cooperate were challenging even while married and so the expectation that your ability to do this after the fact is unlikely the reality of things.

Parents need support when they struggle to get along, share perspectives, communicate, problem solve, and generally get on the “same page” regarding their children.

This is where a co-parenting counselor comes in. Our role is to facilitate your ability to find common ground and to ultimately support the interests of your children, given the differences you may share with your ex-spouse. Sometimes parents cannot agree in spite of co-parenting counseling and that is when parenting coordination is needed. Parenting coordination is a child-focused alternative dispute resolution process mandated by the courts, in which a mental health professional, with mediation training and experience, assists parents in implementing their parenting plan. I became qualified to assist families in parenting coordination in December 2015.

 

SECOND SATURDAY BROWARD: A DIVORCE WORKSHOP

Often people remark at the END of our workshop, “I wish I came here sooner.”

Consider this 4 hours the most valuable investment you might make in your divorce process. As a co-presenter at a divorce workshop called, “Second Saturday Broward,” you will learn about all the legal, emotional and financial information you will need to know when considering or entering a divorce process.

Workshops take place on the second Saturday of every month from 10am – 2pm.

I am here to help.

 

GROUP THERAPY

When you reach out for the support of others you will find a stronger connection to the feelings and journey you are on and realize you are not alone.   Participating in a divorce support group will provide you opportunities to feel truly heard, experience genuine support and encouragement that you aren’t alone. Through this experience you find new strategies and become more capable of handling your overwhelming emotions.


“You cannot swim for new horizons until you have courage to lose sight of the shore.”
― William Faulkner